Oyinkan Adebimpe

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  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Grief

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Grief

    “The cruelest words to say to the recently bereaved are “Life goes on”. True, life goes on. But life tomorrow, will never be what it was yesterday” ~ Oyinkan Adebimpe, circa 2016 Grief is such a deep, hard-to-fathom emotion. I remember the first time I encountered grief. I was in primary school and was no…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Work-Life Balance

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Work-Life Balance

    Here I am. Seated at my desk at 2:00am. Writing about work-life balance. Here’s the thing. I cannot think of any 20-something I know who has full-time employment and has gotten a hang of this work-life balance thing. I remember seeing a random twitter poll asking 20-somethings if they thought their workplace allowed them work-life…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Lifelong Learning

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Lifelong Learning

    I bet you have already figured out that I am definitely not an expert on this topic. Heck, I am hardly even qualified to speak on it. We both know I am almost a good five decades away from the global average life expectancy. I reckon anyone who has passed the global average is an…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Being a Fierce Woman

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Being a Fierce Woman

    Everyday, for the past six weeks, I take a danfo* to Obalende*. On some days, the bus stops along the way to pick up more passengers. Over time, I have come to notice a young woman at the bus stop. She waits there everyday with her young son, all dressed in his cute little school…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING 20 AGAIN

    AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING 20 AGAIN

    I remember the first day I realised that time only goes forward. I was 8 or 9 at the time and the realisation seemed huge and scary. To be honest, it still feels huge and scary every time I think about it. At the time, it dawned on me that every single second that had…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING FEMINIST

    I knew what it meant to be feminist. Or I thought I knew.  It meant to be a man-hating, God-hating rabble-rousing shrew who will never find a man willing to marry her because no man will ever want to put up with ‘that’. ‘That’ being a word spat out disdainfully at the folly of the…

  • AN IBADAN GIRLS GUIDE TO BEING RACIST

    AN IBADAN GIRLS GUIDE TO BEING RACIST

    I cried all through the movie ‘The Hate U Give’. I did not when I read the book. But as I watched the movie, as I felt the pains become palpable, a huge lump formed in my throat that just wouldn’t go down because I knew what it felt like to be black. I knew…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO HAVING A GOOD HEART

    I took quite the carefree walk today, bouncing jauntily with every step until I got to the main road. Now if you know me, you know how I am with crossing the road. Now if you don’t, let’s just say I’d rather walk a mile in 7-inch stilettos if it meant I would get to…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING A WRITER

    To be a writer, you must write. Tsk, Tsk, Tsk, before you say a word, just wait a minute. Yes, I know it seems to you as though I’m simply begging the question. But hear me out. I am a writer. I know I am. But I have more works in my head than I have…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide

    Hi! My name is Oyinkan. I am a lawyer by day and … err, well … I sleep at night. Weekends, too. Lol. You’ve probably guessed by now, and yes, yes, you are right. I am an Ibadan Girl. And yes, yes, this is not really a guide. It’s just me taking you through my…