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  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Work-Life Balance

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Work-Life Balance

    Here I am. Seated at my desk at 2:00am. Writing about work-life balance. Here’s the thing. I cannot think of any 20-something I know who has full-time employment and has gotten a hang of this work-life balance thing. I remember seeing a random twitter poll asking 20-somethings if they thought their workplace allowed them work-life…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Lifelong Learning

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Lifelong Learning

    I bet you have already figured out that I am definitely not an expert on this topic. Heck, I am hardly even qualified to speak on it. We both know I am almost a good five decades away from the global average life expectancy. I reckon anyone who has passed the global average is an…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Being a Fierce Woman

    An Ibadan Girl’s Guide to Being a Fierce Woman

    Everyday, for the past six weeks, I take a danfo* to Obalende*. On some days, the bus stops along the way to pick up more passengers. Over time, I have come to notice a young woman at the bus stop. She waits there everyday with her young son, all dressed in his cute little school…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING 20 AGAIN

    AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING 20 AGAIN

    I remember the first day I realised that time only goes forward. I was 8 or 9 at the time and the realisation seemed huge and scary. To be honest, it still feels huge and scary every time I think about it. At the time, it dawned on me that every single second that had…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING FEMINIST

    I knew what it meant to be feminist. Or I thought I knew.  It meant to be a man-hating, God-hating rabble-rousing shrew who will never find a man willing to marry her because no man will ever want to put up with ‘that’. ‘That’ being a word spat out disdainfully at the folly of the…

  • AN IBADAN GIRLS GUIDE TO BEING RACIST

    AN IBADAN GIRLS GUIDE TO BEING RACIST

    I cried all through the movie ‘The Hate U Give’. I did not when I read the book. But as I watched the movie, as I felt the pains become palpable, a huge lump formed in my throat that just wouldn’t go down because I knew what it felt like to be black. I knew…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO HAVING A GOOD HEART

    I took quite the carefree walk today, bouncing jauntily with every step until I got to the main road. Now if you know me, you know how I am with crossing the road. Now if you don’t, let’s just say I’d rather walk a mile in 7-inch stilettos if it meant I would get to…

  • AN IBADAN GIRL’S GUIDE TO BEING A WRITER

    To be a writer, you must write. Tsk, Tsk, Tsk, before you say a word, just wait a minute. Yes, I know it seems to you as though I’m simply begging the question. But hear me out. I am a writer. I know I am. But I have more works in my head than I have…

  • An Ibadan Girl’s Guide

    Hi! My name is Oyinkan. I am a lawyer by day and … err, well … I sleep at night. Weekends, too. Lol. You’ve probably guessed by now, and yes, yes, you are right. I am an Ibadan Girl. And yes, yes, this is not really a guide. It’s just me taking you through my…